I think a lot of people on dating apps like the idea of dating more than they like actually dating. They want connection, validation, someone to talk to but when it's time to pick a date, a time and a place, they just disappear. That's one of the reasons I ended up trying Tawkify. I got tired of having great conversations that never went anywhere. At least with matchmaking, the people I met seemed a lot more serious about actually meeting in person.

While we experience many clients in different stages of dating, the best fit for Tawkify is someone who is intentional about finding a relationship and open to a fresh perspective. The people who get the most out of matchmaking are willing to let someone else look at their dating life through a different lens. Sometimes we're so close to our own patterns, preferences, and assumptions that we can't see all of the possibilities available to us. That's where a matchmaker can be incredibly valuable. We get to know all different types of people and what they're truly looking for, and we can often see compatibility where someone else might not. It's also a great fit for people who are tired of dating apps and want to meet real, vetted people who are genuinely interested in meeting in person and building a relationship, not just texting back and forth for weeks. It's also great for people that just don't have time to spend hours on apps and they want to outsource their dating life to professionals.

Honestly, divorced people aren't a separate category. They're people. The divorce is something they've experienced, not who they are. The clients who tend to get the most out of Tawkify are the ones who are intentional about this chapter of their lives. They don't need to have everything figured out, but they've spent some time reflecting on what they learned from past relationships and what they're looking for moving forward. What matters most is openness. The people who do best are willing to learn, stay curious, and give new connections a genuine chance. In many ways, divorced clients often have an advantage. They've experienced a serious, committed relationship, learned important lessons about themselves, and tend to date with much more intention than they did when they were younger. That clarity can be incredibly valuable.

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Hi everyone, welcome to the Tawkify subreddit. I’m Nicole. I’ve been a matchmaker at Tawkify since 2020 and a relationship coach since 2007. I also have a very personal connection to this topic. I went through a devastating divorce after 16 years of marriage. At the time, my children were 8 and 10, and I had no idea what life was supposed to look like after the relationship I had built with the father of my children came to an end. I never imagined I would be creating a whole new life, let alone dating again. So when I talk about dating after divorce, I’m not speaking from theory. I know what it feels like to be heartbroken, disoriented, protective of your kids, unsure of yourself, and trying to figure out who you are outside of the life you thought you were going to have. I also know that dating after divorce can be more than starting over. It can be a chance to make different choices, rebuild trust in yourself, and get clearer about what you actually want now. Professionally, I work with singles navigating readiness, compatibility, emotional availability, blind spots, confidence, and healthy connection. Personally, I’ve lived the messy, humbling, and ultimately hopeful process of stepping back into dating after a major life transition. I’m happy to talk about: * How to know when you’re actually ready to date again * Dating after a long marriage * Rebuilding confidence after divorce * Dating when you have children * What to share about your divorce early on * How much to talk about your ex * Dating apps after years away from the dating world * First dates when you feel rusty * Red flags, green flags, and emotional availability * Trusting yourself again * Chemistry versus compatibility * Healthy boundaries * Matchmaking after divorce * How to stay hopeful without lowering your standards This AMA is for anyone dating after divorce, thinking about dating again, supporting someone who is, or trying to understand what healthy love can look like after a major relationship ends. Ask me anything. *Note: I can’t provide personal customer support or individual matchmaking consultations here, but I’m happy to answer general questions about dating, relationships, divorce, confidence, compatibility, and the Tawkify matchmaking perspective.*

I'm curious because whenever people talk about matchmaking, the conversation usually ends up being about the cost, the process or whether the matches were good. What I rarely hear about is the end result. Did anyone here actually meet their long-term partner through a matchmaker? I was looking into options like Tawkify and it got me wondering how often these things lead to real relationships versus just a few dates. Would love to hear some real stories

OK...thought I would post an update from the weekend for those that are interested in both in person singles events, as well as what it is like to be recruited and go on a Tawkify date. I also decided to post these two together because I think it's interesting to compare/contrast. **TLDR for those that don't want to read the whole thing: Singles mixers** are effective if YOU make them work for you. Work the room, be bold and engage with people. Each event is unique, will depend on who else happens to attend....but a good alternative to the apps. I will continue to go to them. **Tawkify** is good if you happen to be the one recruited and just go on dates for the opportunity to meet someone new. It's interesting to hear the feedback on yourself (Tawkify solicits from your date) and you could learn more about how you are coming across on dates. Just be aware the one paying for the service may show up with an agenda and you are just along for the ride. They do a good job handling the logistics and making the match....but don't think I'd pay for the service myself. **Additional summary,** don't be too hard on yourself when criticized about your appearance. For some you will be beautiful/handsome...for others not perfect enough. Shake it off....be confident in yourself. **First, the Singles event was Saturday night:** Lots of people there, and per usual, the women slightly outnumbered the men (it was close to balanced....but slightly more women). What I observed....women had a tendency to cluster together (women don't do this!)....the men had a tendency to be off by themselves or in groups with a few women & men around a table. The women that stood in groups by themselves I think made it hard for men to approach them, and they appeared to eventually start having fun by themselves in that little group (fine if all you are looking to do is meet other single women to hang out with - but if that is the case, join a singles facebook group for free...don't pay for a singles mixer event). Initially when I walked in, I looked for the first single guy that was even remotely interesting to me and walked up and started talking. They give you "cheat sheets" at these events to start conversation...in this case it was a bingo card of traits/interests someone might have and you use that to a/spark conversation and b/fill out your bingo card to win a prize. Once I made that first connection, it was easy. I chatted to the first guy (no sparks) for about 10 minutes when another woman approached us to try and complete her bingo card. Oddly she started speaking to me first...and every time she asked me a question, I turned to the man and said he should answer too. Eventually they chatted directly and I started to bow out....at which point two men approached me at the same time. I spoke to them for about 20 minutes and then excused myself for the ladies room. When I came out I was immediately approached by another man....was talking to him for about 10 min when one of the men from the second group re-approached and boldly just asked for my number as he said he was leaving ( I was mildly interested so I gave it to him). Current guy was a bit perplexed and not sure what to do...but we continued talking for another 5 min when he finally asked....."do you give your number out often?". I said, "only if I think I might actually go on a date with someone...otherwise I'll simply say I'm not quite sure I'm there yet, but happy to take theirs". He seemed to think about this for a few seconds and asked for my number. I told him boldness is an attractive quality and gave him my number. :) After that, I was approached by a few more men....(I think a total of 6 for the evening.....I was never just standing around after I started that first conversation).....I did not give my number to anyone else (although I was asked 2 more times....I'm only mentioning this detail for a point I'm going to make later). From my perspective...these events are worth trying but what you get out of them is partially a factor of how outgoing you are willing to be, and the luck of the draw of who else shows up. At this particular event, I felt quite popular, and a good mix of men to meet, so worth it to me. **Grade: 8/10 for meeting prospective partner.** **Second, the Tawkify date on Sunday:** Ok, refresher...I was recruited to go on a date with someone who was paying for the matchmaking service. On the day of the date, they texted my date's name to me about 2 hrs before the date. otherwise, all I had to go on was the brief bio they sent me to see if I was interested. The restaurant they chose was great. Good location about equidistant (as I later learned) between the two of us. When you show up at the venue the reservation is under the matchmakers name. When I asked for that reservation, I was shown to a table where my date was already seated. He did NOT get up to greet me. As soon as I sat down I entered the "interview zone", as he rapid fire asked me a laundry list of questions and didn't seem interested in allowing me to ask questions. After about 4-5 questions, I finally interjected and said "how about you? These are phenomenal questions, I'd love to hear your answers to some of these. Maybe good to start with...what do you do?". At which point he did start to back off a bit on the "interview" and started talking much more about himself. He came across a bit arrogant when talking about his work (he owns multiple businesses). But I chalked it up to first date jitters and just wanting to impress. We also drifted into more of a natural conversational flow. At one point we talked at length about how we have similar structure around our daily exercise routine (we both do it first thing in the morning...7 days a week). We discussed cardio vs. weight lifting at this age and the mix, etc. The point being...it was a healthy part of what we discussed. He also happened to let slip just how many dates he'd been on through Tawkify (quite a few it turns out). Overall the date was pleasant. We parted with a hug. I wasn't feeling a whole lot of sparks with this guy...but he was nice enough. And I thought maybe I could find more to like if we went on another date (first dates can be hard). So when I gave my feedback to Tawkify I said I'd go on another date if he wanted to. I did also mention the fact that he rapid fire asked me questions though. Here is the feedback that Tawkify gave to me from him, verbatim.."XX liked that you were intelligent, loved your job, good conversationalist and seemed to know what you want and are looking for. Sadly, he would prefer someone into fitness more." Ummmm....what? More into fitness? We basically have the same workout....so uhhh...what? Ooooh.....what he really meant was thinner...but can't say that. OK...got it. Folks....I'm 5'8" and a size 12....not skinny...but not fat. Not gonna lie....it stung for a few minutes....until I remembered that just the day before, at the singles mixer....I was attractive enough to get asked for my number 4 times. So my size wasn't a problem there. I mention this detail for something I'll cover in the summary. But for tawkify specifically....it's a mixed bag. It just depends on who you get matched with and their expectations of what they are looking for. This guy I think had a little sense of entitlement....he was paying, I was there for him to assess (the rapid fire interview approach) and clearly a very specific appearance he was looking for (skinny)....to which he is allowed to have preferences (we all are). BUT, it galls me to put it under the guise of fitness.....that does not equate to skinny. **Grade: 5/10 for meeting prospective partner. I would never pay for this service** **Overall Summary:** Don't let others in the dating world define who you are or how to view yourself. Some will love you....others won't....it's all good. Be confident in yourself...and just keep putting yourself out there and enjoy the process along the way. I'm learning to enjoy it more as I go along....and I'll take that as my win for the weekend. :)

So a little about me. 48yo fun fit financially and mentally stable guy who doesn't have kids or want kids.... WHO FUCKED UP A GREAT THING 4 years ago. What am I seeking? A girl next door who is healthy adventurous and doesn't have kids or want kids who i can skydive and scuba dive with. Just signed up 2 week ago for 8k operation. Match maker is awesome I like her like the wise aunt. At first it was promising..me seeking just a nice girl next door who is healthy adventurous and doesn't have kids or want kids 35 to 45. But I think the need for her to be adventurous threw a rod in the system. Im optimistic. But im scared. The second chat today has me worried that they may have no one in nj .. So I opted to include nyc. My question..... where do they find people? In my case women? Ps My dating history is shit Though I get up to 2hinge dates a month And maybe 2 Facebook dates a month Im not finding who I want. Its why I thought to hire a professional

I'm in the pool (meaning I don't pay), and have had a mix of experiences over the last 2 years. First few matchmakers did video or phone chats and seemed really invested. They provided a lot of info about the matches ahead of time to try to ensure fit. Then, there were a few who said they only communicated by text, and gave minimal details. One of those matches booked a hotel near our date and was pretty upset when I didn't want to go check it out with him. His matchmaker said they don't do screener conversations or give many details, and I thought Tawkify had changed. However, a matchmaker recently reached out to me to set up a video chat and tell me all about her client. So here's my question, is the depth of matchmaker effort directly correlational with how much you pay? Are there budget tiers where you get bare bones service? Is the trick to just ignore the (budget) matchmakers who don't want to talk or tell you about the match to assess for fit?

OK...I did some searching on Reddit about the matchmaking service, Tawkify. I found mostly threads coming from folks in their 30s..maybe 40s. So I'm wondering if anyone can share their experience as someone in their 50s. I had actually considered paying for the service well over a year ago, and then decided I wasn't sure I had enough data to justify that I would consider the money well spent. So I backed off. Fast forward to a few months ago where they asked me to share some additional details to put in their database for matchmakers to consider me for matching with their paying clients, i.e. what am I looking for, brief bio, some photos, etc. (note, I wouldn't pay..I'd just be in their database). I thought why not. So I filled out the forms and then sent some pictures. Next, they asked me to record some videos answering some of their questions....which I never got around to at the time, due to a lot of work travel. Well.... last week they asked me again and this past weekend I finally did the video screening. And now......today.... they contacted me with a potential match. They shared his details, he sounded like a good match on paper....so I agreed I was interested. They asked me to share available times....I did...... and now I have a blind date coming up. I have the day/time....but not the location yet. So....my question to all of you....has anyone else done this (on the paying or non-paying side of it). What was it like? I have NEVER been on a blind date in my life....so that will be all new. But I'm also not sure if it's just "hey you two crazy kids....meet here at this time....figure out the rest". lol Does anyone have any insight on what happens from here? EDIT TO ADD: Location has been set. A cute restaurant not too far from me (so the man is relatively "local"). I will basically show up and say I am there for a reservation set by the matchmaker's name. I will have no idea what this man's name is or what he looks like, until he shows up and asks for the same reservation. This is kind of funny to me. I'm just going to treat this as a fun little experiment, have a good time with it, and hope for the best.

I've been thinking a lot about how challenging dating can be in SF. There are plenty of successful, interesting people here but actually finding someone compatible and making a meaningful connection can feel harder than expected. Recently, I started looking into matchmaking services like Tawkify. What caught my attention is having someone else handle the introductions and logistics while focusing on compatibility and relationship goals. I know matchmaking isn't cheap, and obviously no service can guarantee chemistry. But I can see the appeal for busy professionals who would rather spend their time meeting people than searching for them. Has anyone in San Francisco used Tawkify.What was your experience like and did you feel it was worth the investment?

Ok im 48 Im a fun fit financially and mentally stable guy who doesn't have kids or want kids. 5'8 Maybe a 6, 7 when in a suit On average I get 1 date a month on hinge. I also speed date and single network and get 1 date a month as well. Im person I do ok as anyone I guess. I had an awesome and amazing and beautiful person. But due to ego and fear I messed it up. After 4 years of seeking a girl next door who is healthy adventurous and doesn't have kids or want kids to marry...and not finding her ive decided to try Tawkify. Homest im scared. This is big money This is serious! Its one thing to get catfished fatfished liefished on hinge at $45 a month.... But at this price point .... So men. Honestly. Your Tawkify dates better or equal to what and who you matched with on hinge or bumble? Or was it a sea of fluffy couch potatoes? Please be honest! Please

I don't have contact with her anymore. The only time we see each other is when we exchange our dog we got him together when we were married. I won't get into the details of how things ended but it was a split decision and we both moved on. I've been with a new girl for over 5 months now. We met through tawkify and everything has been going great, still going. She was serious from the beginning and never had a problem with the fact that I was previously married. Honestly I don't care that my ex is mad. That's her problem. But what I do care about is that she's now running to our mutual friends and talking badly about me. She's even been venting to my brother. Like why involve him? And now the dog situation has become a whole thing. When it's my girlfriend's turn to pick him up, my ex refuses to hand him over. She says I have to be the one to go get him not my girlfriend. We never had any agreement like that, she's just making up rules out of nowhere. I'm just tired of it

I got divorced about a year ago and the idea of jumping back into apps sounds exhausting for me. I’ve been looking into alternatives and Tawkify keeps coming up but I can’t tell if matchmaking is a better experience so i need yall to tell me your experience? The main thing Im curious about is whether it feels more intentional or serious compared to apps, i would love to hear from people who dealt with this after a divorce or long term relationship ending.

I’ve realized I don’t even hate dating, i hate the process around it lol. Apps feel like this endless cycle of swiping, small talk, trying to line schedules up, conversations dying randomly, then starting all over again. So I started wondering if matchmaking services are actually better at finding compatible people or if the main benefit is just having someone else deal with all the filtering. Part of me feels like the convenience alone could be worth it if you work a lot, curious whether people felt the matches themselves were noticeably better too or not really.

Feels like the real issue with apps isn’t even compatibility it’s that conversations just stall or never lead anywhere and the whole process starts to feel pointless after a while. It’s honestly what made me look into more structured options like matchmaking I saw Tawkify mentioned since they focus on actually setting up real dates. Not saying it’s the answer but it does make you realize how broken the current process feels. Has anyone found a consistent way to move things off the app?

Hi everyone, welcome to the Tawkify subreddit! I am Tawkify's Chief Matchmaker and CCO, and also have a very personal connection to matchmaking -- I was successfully matched with my husband 29 years ago! I will be available here to answer questions on April 24th from 9AM to 3PM Eastern, but you can begin asking questions on this thread at your convenience! I am happy to talk about: * The Tawkify matchmaking process * Dating blind spots and understanding your own "matchability" * Romantic compatibility * Dating after divorce * Healthy boundaries * Modern dating and marriage trends * Successful first date tips * How to deepen and strengthen connections * Healthy relationship patterns * And more! Our goal is to create an engaging, helpful space for both members and non-members alike. Let's have a fun and lively discussion that we can all learn from! I'm looking forward to our chat; thank you for being here! [Matchmaking changed my life and I've been honored to be part of so many other love stories.](https://preview.redd.it/qp651unhzrwg1.png?width=1269&format=png&auto=webp&s=8e65d9246c051968b70ab3ab3e1cd7b108776ae1) >Thank you for your questions and your engagement! This was our first Tawkify AMA and I'm quite certain will not be our last. I want to express our gratitude on behalf of all of us at Tawkify -- you are the reason we do what we do. If you'd like to experience the beginning of the Tawkify application process and become part of our database, please accept this token of our appreciation with an invitation to create your own Tawkify profile. We look forward to working with you soon! > >[Create your FREE Tawkify profile here](https://onboarding.tawkify.com/?rf=brite1120)

On April 24^(th) from 9AM to 3PM EDT, Tawkify’s Chief Matchmaker and CCO Brie Temple will be available to answer any questions you have and provide expert insights on topics such as: * The Tawkify matchmaking process * Dating blind spots and understanding your own "matchability" * Romantic compatibility * Dating after divorce * Healthy boundaries * Modern dating and marriage trends * Successful first date tips * How to deepen and strengthen connections * Healthy relationship patterns * And more! Our goal is to create an engaging, helpful space for both members and non-members alike. We hope to hear from you!

At this point I'm pretty sure dating in vegas is just a different sport than dating anywhere else. 42m, Henderson. divorced, been here 8 years. half the women on the apps work nights in hospitality so our schedules never line up. other half are either tourists or influencers (sorry but no). last month: one seemed normal then told me she works bottle service and is free tuesdays at 2pm. another drove from Summerlin, got here 40 minutes late because of the 215, then spent the date complaining about henderson being boring. third was cool but asked on date two if vegas is permanent for me or just a phase. like staying here needs defending. buddy suggested i try a matchmaker but that feels like such a vegas thing to pay someone to do. cant tell if that's smart or desperate at this point. anyone actually done it? edit: this thread was not what i expected lmao. fair enough on some of it. yeah the vegas question was normal, i was being a dick about that. some of the rest was a reach but whatever. still nowhere on apps so talked to tawkify and vida select. someone in here mentioned tawkify only matched their client once in over a year in vegas which sketched me out. vida was monthly and i can actually see who i'm meeting before committing which felt better. one intro so far. works normal hours and actually lives here so that's already an improvement. low bar but well see.

I keep seeing it come up and I understand the appeal of having someone handle the filtering and set up introductions. But I want to know if the matches themselves feel more aligned or if it’s still somewhat hit or miss just with a smoother process. For anyone who’s tried it or looked into it seriously, did it actually improve the quality of people you were meeting or mainly just how the experience felt?

If you’re searching for the best online dating site, there’s a chance something about dating isn’t working the way you hoped it would. [Dating app swipe fatigue](https://tawkify.com/blog/dating/dating-app-swipe-fatigue) is real, making dating feel more and more like just another task to manage on your already busy calendar.  You’re not alone in this. In fact, [91%](https://www.tinderpressroom.com/The-Green-Flags-Study) of men and 94% of women say the current dating environment is more difficult than ever. In many cases, the challenge isn’t a lack of opportunities to meet people—it’s that most platforms are design for speed and volume rather than genuine alignment.  Luckily, there are online dating sites today that prioritize deeper compatibility screening, more structured introductions, and support that helps you refine what you’re looking for in a partner. This often results in an increased likelihood that each introduction brings you closer to building a meaningful relationship. [This guide](https://tawkify.com/blog/dating/best-online-dating-site) explores the best online dating sites available today. It also highlights what to look for when choosing a platform, how different matching models shape your dating experience, and how to decide which approach fits your relationship goals.

Are there any matchmaking services that are actually worth it. I’m 36 and starting to feel like the whole dating process lately is just inefficient a lot of effort without much real progress and I’m wondering if there’s a better way to approach it at this stage. I’ve been looking into matchmaking since it seems more structured where someone actually vets people and sets up real dates. I’ve seen companies like Tawkify mentioned which sounds interesting but I’d like to hear from anyone who has firsthand experience.

Some examples of relationship values could be family, religion, honesty, and communication. Perhaps sharing the same religion is important to you, due to cultural identity, emotional support, and so on. If that’s the case, then finding someone who shares your beliefs and religious practices will help to create lifelong understanding and harmony. Add it to your [deal-breakers](https://tawkify.com/blog/compatibility/red-flag-or-overreaction-first-date-dealbreakers-explained) list.  Or maybe you put honesty above all else, needing this to be able to trust anyone in your life. That means that your partner needs to share this value, too. Sharing values helps you both create relationship goals to continually work toward for a successful partnership. Without common goals, you both might be left feeling misunderstood. Read more about [relationship goals and values](https://tawkify.com/blog/start-dating/defining-relationship-goals-and-values-your-key-to-dating-success). ## Youthe way. It only makes sense that a long-term partner should share these, too.  One of the top signs you’re compatible is sharing relationship values. Why? Because these are the things that guide how you live your life and the relationships you develop and maintain along the way. It only makes sense that a long-term partner should share these, too.  Some examples of relationship values could be family, religion, honesty, and communication. Perhaps sharing the same religion is important to you, due to cultural identity, emotional support, and so on. If that’s the case, then finding someone who shares your beliefs and religious practices will help to create lifelong understanding and harmony. Add it to your [deal-breakers](https://tawkify.com/blog/compatibility/red-flag-or-overreaction-first-date-dealbreakers-explained) list.  Or maybe you put honesty above all else, needing this to be able to trust anyone in your life. That means that your partner needs to share this value, too. Sharing values helps you both create relationship goals to continually work toward for a successful partnership. Without common goals, you both might be left feeling misunderstood. Read more about [relationship goals and values](https://tawkify.com/blog/start-dating/defining-relationship-goals-and-values-your-key-to-dating-success). ## You Respect Each Other’s Individual Needs Some examples of relationship values could be family, religion, honesty, and communication. Perhaps sharing the same religion is important to you, due to cultural identity, emotional support, and so on. If that’s the case, then finding someone who shares your beliefs and religious practices will help to create lifelong understanding and harmony. Add it to your [deal-breakers](https://tawkify.com/blog/compatibility/red-flag-or-overreaction-first-date-dealbreakers-explained) list.  Or maybe you put honesty above all else, needing this to be able to trust anyone in your life. That means that your partner needs to share this value, too. Sharing values helps you both create relationship goals to continually work toward for a successful partnership. Without common goals, you both might be left feeling misunderstood. Read more about [relationship goals and values](https://tawkify.com/blog/start-dating/defining-relationship-goals-and-values-your-key-to-dating-success). ## You[deal-breakers](https://tawkify.com/blog/compatibility/red-flag-or-overreaction-first-date-dealbreakers-explained) list.  Or maybe you put honesty above all else, needing this to be able to trust anyone in your life. That means that your partner needs to share this value, too. Sharing values helps you both create relationship goals to continually work toward for a successful partnership. Without common goals, you both might be left feeling misunderstood. Read more about [relationship goals and values](https://tawkify.com/blog/start-dating/defining-relationship-goals-and-values-your-key-to-dating-success). ## You Respect Each Other’s Individual Needs

I’ve been looking into matchmaking services lately because I’m trying to take dating more seriously and Tawkify stood out the most to me for how hands on it seems with setting up dates and doing the vetting, but I’m still trying to get a realistic sense of how it compares to other matchmaking services out there, is it actually better in terms of match quality and overall experience or are they all pretty similar once you try them?

Recently divorced (38M) and starting to think about getting back out there to find something real again, a few friends of mine recommended Tawkify so I looked it up and it actually seems pretty legit, especially the whole idea of having someone handle the vetting and setting up dates, but I’m interested to hear if anyone here has tried it and if it actually leads to better matches or if it just sounds better in theory?

I’ve actually never used dating apps because they’ve always felt kind of fake and full of people who aren’t really serious so I’ve avoided them completely. Now I’m thinking about trying something different maybe a matchmaker like Tawkify but since this would be my first time doing anything like this I’m not sure what to expect or if people actually have real success with it so I’d appreciate any honest advice.

keep seeing mixed reviews, some people say it’s a great way to skip the apps and actually go on real dates others say it’s expensive for what you get and not every match is a win which I guess is just how dating works anyway. I get the idea of paying for someone to handle the process especially if you’re busy or burned out but I’m curious if it actually feels worth it in practice or if it’s more of a you’re paying for convenience type of thing has anyone here actually tried it?

So recently I have been asked a lot about my Tawkify experience, so I thought I would post my thoughts in this sub. I signed up for a matchmaker package in 2019. I paid for three dates. My matchmaker is nothing short of an amazing human being. She was kind of like a big sister figure in my life. She made it easy for me to be candid, direct, and vulnerable with her. She treated me with the kind of respect I appreciated. So onto the dates. To be clear, I am a black American and at that time I dated mostly interracially. I lived in a large-ish (top-20 media market) U.S. city. It’s a very diverse, very segregated place so I made her job hard. She set me up with three wonderful women. The first woman was as close to my ideal mate as I could have ever expected to find. When I laid out for my matchmaker the personality and lifestyle type I was seeking, this woman was a fantastic match. Downside: I was not that same level match for her. After matchmaker dates, you go to their website and review the date. You also get reviews from your date. I gave her an amazing rating. She gave me high marks and said that I wasn’t a match, which sucked but she is a wonderful lady so I can’t be mad about it. The next two dates were less ideal, but still wonderful women. They both were bright, attractive, professional women with whom there was no spark, likely on either side. To be upfront, that was probably on my end as much as theirs. Also, to be fair, both women were educated, professional, kind women who are great catches. If I saw any of them on Bumble, I would have definitely swiped right. My matchmaker listened to my wishes and acted accordingly. She also gave me advice on ways to alter my dating search to better fit what she saw in me. She saw more in me as a human than I was letting my dates see, so she encouraged me to look for women who would be more likely to both acknowledge and appreciate those traits. I didn’t find the love of my life, but I did meet three women whom I never saw on dating apps who were actually pretty amazing humans. If there is interest, I will also share my second Tawkify experience in the future.

I’ve been looking into Tawkify and I’m trying to understand if it actually works in a real sense not just in theory. I get that no service can guarantee chemistry but for people who’ve used it did it lead to genuinely better or more meaningful dates compared to apps or did it still feel like the same trial and error just with a higher price tag? Would be helpful to hear how it played out for real people.

I tried Tawkify because I wanted serious dating and liked the idea of a matchmaker. The process felt professional at first, and people there seemed more serious than on regular apps. But for me, it didn’t work that well. The matches were not always what I wanted, and it is quite expensive. I had a few dates, but no real connection. After that, I tried [Quickmedates ](https://linkestre.com/?site=aukaq7)and liked it more. It felt easier to use, and I had more control over who I talk to. Conversations felt more natural too.

I’ve been looking into matchmaking after getting tired of apps, and Tawkify seems to come up a lot as one of the more established options, but I’m a bit stuck on the pricing side of things. I’ve seen people mention packages starting around $4k which I could realistically do, but I’m wondering if that’s actually enough to make the experience worthwhile or if it ends up being too few matches to really find someone compatible. At the same time, jumping to higher packages in the $10k+ range feels like a big leap unless there’s a noticeable difference in results, so I’m trying to figure out if starting smaller makes sense or if that just leads to wishing you invested more upfront?