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White tie is the fanciest of the fancy. This means your fiance is going to have to wear not just a tuxedo, but a tuxeo with tails. Think royal ball - which is absolutely insane for most people to require unles they're uber rich. Here's some info: [https://www.paperlesspost.com/blog/dress-code-guest-attire-guide/](https://www.paperlesspost.com/blog/dress-code-guest-attire-guide/) So I would double and triple check if the bride and groom really want white tie because that will make things a lot more complicated if it's white tie. Black tie will give you more options, but not much - and the dresses you showed here are not black tie either. More natural fiber dresses that meet these two dress codes tend to be very pricey, which is why I don't understand why people have weddings with this requirement (especially since the events usually aren't as formal as the dress code). You may want to look into renting a dress instead. But honestly - I'd wait until the invites are out because what I've read in some of your comments, I can't believe they're saying this is white tie or even black tie for that matter.

In your edits and comments you mentioned that your cousin is very religious and that you are expecting a baby (congratulations) but have never been married (do I have that right)? Is it possible this is the issue? It obviously should not be but some people… I personally would not go, although with two large celebrations I had (not weddings) I did screw up the excel sheet I gave to the calligrapher and accidentally deleted one person each time. In one case it was a distant relative’s of DH’s that I did not care about (although I apologized and did send her an invite when it was brought to my attention), the other was a reasonably close friend that in no way did I mean to exclude. A mutual friend called me and mentioned that L had not received an invitation. When I checked the list I had deleted her accidentally. I called her immediately and explained. If there is a relative that wants to get involved, they can call the bride and say Knuds1b never got their invitation? At least it will shut them up if the bride says yes I did not invite her, and at that point the family will be talking about her Years ago, I had a new friend, she was having a 40th birthday party. I thought I was not invited even though another mutual friend who was also new to her was. I was fine. The invitation arrived three weeks late, the day after the event. I really wish to this day she had called me. The invitation was postmarked the same day as my friend’s it was just a glitch. She is gone now which is one reason I regret not being at the party. FF to a few months ago, her daughter was pregnant and was having a shower. I had no idea. A week before the shower the daughter texts me, asks me if I am coming? I said to what? Turns out she had left out a letter on my email so the Paperlesspost never got to me and it is possible the person who has the email (I once emailed him, its a real person that I don’t know, I forget why we exchanged emails a few years ago) probably did open it. I was very happy to attend the shower!