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My website (made on WithJoy/Joy) is finally ready! I want to send my invites, so I did a RSVP test on my website. At the end of the RSVP, a page automatically opens up to confirm the RSVP for the guest and there is a link to see accommodations close from de venue. I NEED to disable that : the guest need to CALL the hotel to reserve for the night or reserve with a very specific link. I disabled everything that seems related to that in the settings but it is still doing the SAME! Has it happened yo anyone? How do I disable it? Thank you!

Platforms like YesLovey, The Knot and WithJoy allow you to customize the RSVP to some extent. YesLovey, for example, allows you to create custom fields in the RSVP form for the main person and all the +1 companions, so it gets super easy to track. You can just ask on the form things like: \- Will you attend the Friday rinks? \[Yes | No\] \- Will you join us for the brunch on Sunday? \[Yes | No\] \- Will you come to the hike on Sunday ? \[Yes | No\] Then on the RSVP panel you can filter by any combination of those, export, copy, print... so it's all quite organised and you don't have to manually add anything. My wedding was waaaayy more simple, i just had an attendance field and another for the bus transport. But things can get messy VERY fast!

For the TODAY batch, I would separate the address collection from the pretty save the date so older relatives are not hunting for the form. Send one plain text first line like "Please add your mailing info here by Sunday" using a Google Form with fields for household name, mailing address, email, phone, and number invited, then send the photo/card link after. For a more wedding-specific option, WithJoy is usually less clunky for multi-person households than Zola, but Google Form is probably the fastest rescue move.

We used Zola for our wedding website and used their built in Gift Fund and added it as a tab directly to our site. We chose this one because it was most accessible and easiest to use for most people (no need to have a Venmo account, just credit card). I wanted to keep it simple for folks visiting our site and not send them to a third party website or require them to have a Venmo. I considered WithJoy for our site and registry, but I’d heard that their gift fund didn’t always show payment confirmation and that created some confusion for some people.

Hey, your situation is pretty common, Etsy templates for the paper side, separate digital tool for RSVPs/website. A few honest options that fit your criteria (Canadian, no registry needed, mobile-friendly, urgent, low cost): If cost is the #1 priority: Joy (withjoy.com) is genuinely free, no paywalls, mobile UX is solid, and the RSVP flow is good. The Knot is similar but you'll get a lot of marketing email after signup. If you want a flat fee with zero upsells or registry pressure: disclosure, I built WedKit ([Wedkit](https://wedkit.ca/?utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=rwp_canada_thread)). $49 CAD one-time, Canadian, no subscriptions, RSVPs + meal/dietary questions + plus-one handling + seating + guest comms. Probably overkill if your guest list is under \~40 and you just want basic RSVP collection, Joy will do you fine in that case. Practical note since you're using Etsy templates: if your printed RSVP cards already have a "reply by mail" line, you only need the website for the *online* RSVP option. Most couples include both ("RSVP by mail OR at oururl.com/rsvp") so older relatives can still mail it in. For a June wedding any of these will be live in an afternoon. Good luck!

If “everything in one place” is the priority, I’d start with WithJoy or Zola and keep the honeymoon fund linked from the registry section. For older guests, I’d still make one tiny paper/text backup: a short URL plus one family point person, because QR-only or app-only RSVPs can get messy fast. If you end up separating the pieces, Lemonvite is nice for text-friendly digital invite design plus RSVP tracking/read receipts, but it would not replace the full wedding website or honeymoon fund.

I recently got married and thought it would be helpful to share my experience with different vendors. We did an immediate family ceremony at city hall and then a restaurant reception at for 48 people. Budget 40k (including family dinner night before, tuxedo, dress, small miscellaneous items etc etc). Spent 35k. We prioritized venue, photos, and flowers. **Venue:** The Chase - it was great! The staff on the day were soooo kind and on the ball. We booked out the patio. The food was perfect, everyone loved it. I wouldn’t do more than 50 people, it would be very tight. We had a guitarist and that was great, no space for a band, limited space for dancing but we were not big dancing people. It was a short version of their restaurant menu and people ordered on the day, which was nice (allowed flexibility when guests dropped out last minute and we swapped someone in), we did open bar with cap on drink price. If booking out the whole place you can have small ceremony on the patio, since we could not do that we got married at city hall then went to the restaurant where all our friends and family joined us. This was nice as we spent cocktail hour with our guests so we got time to chat with them more. It’s based on min spend which varies depending on the day. **Dress:** I went with Lea-Ann Belter and I couldn’t recommend them more. My timeline was 4 months and Vanessa made me feel so comfort and her method of helping me choose a dress was really helpful. I loved that it was cut and made in Toronto. It’s made to measure and alterations are included in the price. We got to customize it a bit with reducing the train length and adding buttons and detachable sleeves. Communication was great. My dress fit so well and people complimented it all night. My other experience were sash and bustle, I didn’t love anything there and I felt slightly pressured to get something. There is a rush fee and alterations were not included and I would have to go somewhere else. Some of the samples were not in great condition. I also went to loversland and they were not great. From the moment I tried to book and appointment they said I was too late, I should have started looking earlier, when I booked an appointment to see the sample sale dresses they asked why it was 2 weeks away and commented again that I should be in here sooner. I explained that my Mom is coming in that weekend and they suggested I look without her, I said no. This was also the only place I went to that had a fee to try on dresses. The Brides Project was great, dresses were well looked after, each in their own garment bag, the ladies knew where everything was and recommended dresses. Prices were very reasonable even for new dresses. If you have a smaller budget I would definitely check them out. **Make-up:** I wanted a more natural look so spent time trying to find that. I went with Eryn Shannon, website looked great and has good reviews. The price was a bit higher than others. The communication was a bit slow at times but they were very accommodating to a last minute change. My hair and make-up artist was great, we did a trial and she made improvements on the hair portion for the on the day look. **Flowers**: the wild pansy - the flowers were amazing! I paid for the set-up service and it was worth it. Everyone complemented the flowers. I did bud vases (bought the vases as didn’t want to deal with returns) and they were full. Didn’t seem like we skimped at all. The cost was appropriate for the quality and variety of flowers we got. We used the bud vases as our wedding favors and it was a hit. Highly recommend. **table numbers and seating charts** I made them on Canva, paid for the upgraded membership to get all the graphics and CMYK colour format when printing. They have many templates which were easy to work off of. They looked great. I printed them at staples. Cost was very reasonable, communication with staples when orders were ready were hit and miss. I left a 2.5 week window and got them the week of the wedding. I use their poster foam core option for the seating chart and it was great, clolours slight lighter than the mockup but likely due to material. It saved money compared to printing on canva. **Wedding website and invitations:** withjoy - easy to navigate and use. It’s free. Paid for custom invitation design rather than the free templates. Did everything electronically. Some invites went in people’s junk folder so the tracker for delivery was helpful when their RSVP was missing. The guest info table is helpful to keep all information in one spot. **Photography:** ever after photography- Norbert was great, easy to work with. Didn’t push us to be outside of our comfort zone. They were flexible with the rain checks for engagement photos and rolled with the rainy wedding day as best as possible. Communication was great and timely. I had a hard time choosing a photographer - can update once we get photos back. Their price package seemed fair. **Guitar:** derek McRae - he was great! Large mix of music. People really enjoyed it. He provided us with a microphone for speeches too. I would recommend for any event you would like soft music for. It was much better than restaurant music and worked well for our space. Happy to answer any questions.

You need to make a registry. You can do it on a website like withJoy where you can ask for straight up money - but make it more engaging for your guests by adding categories. Are there any improvements you’re planning for your house? Make that a cash gift option. But you do also need to add physical gifts. You may have everything you need, so come up with things you *want*. Is it an expensive new knife, a high quality pan, that kitchen gadget you wouldn’t buy because you’d only use it once/year? An extra sheet set. Some more hand towels. You have a house, are there any garden tools you could use? At your age it probably matters less for your friends, but your older relatives want to buy you things. Dig into your imagination and come up with some ideas for them.

No, my question is - whether to even extend an invitation to the +1. So on the invitation it would be addressed just to the friend and rsvp just for themselves. So no option for them to decide whether they get to bring a +1. That’s what I’m trying to get at. Anyways there’s no fixed sequence of invitation, think it’s up to the discretion of the bride & groom since I’ve received official invitations with RSVP without the WhatsApp / email whatsoever before that. These days usually people just do it on Joy website.

I used WithJoy for mine and it was pretty solid for multi-store registries. The interface isn't as fancy as some others but it pulls items from different sites without the markup issues you mentioned. Only downside is guests sometimes get confused by the checkout process since they're redirected to different stores, but most figured it out The area info page feature worked well too - easy to add local spots and format everything nicely

Hi! I know there are a million posts about wedding websites but i can’t really find a clear answer on which would work best for my particular needs. I am mostly focused on finding a website platform that has the best registry option. I want to be able to add items from multiple websites. We are not going to add any honeymoon “experiences,” just physical items from some different stores/websites! I’ve read in other threads that Zola is not the best for that, since you have to manually mark off which items have been purchased, and I also read that they mark up some of the items. My friend used Withjoy but I noticed it’s not that popular compared to others. What have peoole’s experiences been with that platform? We are also ordering our invitations from a stationery store, not one of these websites, so I don’t need the website to match. We are not doing online RSVPs either so don’t need that feature. I’d also like to to use a website that is easy to use and edit on my phone! I don’t need a page for the wedding party since I’m not having one lol, but I’d like a page of info for things to do in the area, as well as a page providing more information about the wedding day itself. Thanks!!

the conversation thing is a bit overstated in my opinion. the real difference shows up at larger tables, like if you're seating 10-12 at a long rectangle, the people at opposite ends basically can't interact at all. but at 6-8 per table, you're fine. that's basically a normal dinner party. the actual practical stuff nobody mentions: rectangular tables take up more floor space and are harder to route traffic around in a tent. your caterers and guests will be squeezing between tables more. worth sketching out the layout or asking your venue coordinator to do a rough floor plan before you commit. on the decor side, runners and bud vases on rectangle tables look genuinely great and are way more affordable than tall centerpieces on rounds. you're not missing anything obvious there. your orientation idea (heads toward the dance floor) is smart and solves the main complaint people have. if you want to play with layout before talking to your venue, rsvpd has a seating tool, as does withjoy and zola. sometimes seeing it visually helps settle the debate with mom faster than any reddit thread will.

We used Withjoy and ran into this issue as well. After our wedding, it told us that 1/3 of the items that guests had purchased on our registry were out of stock. When searching for registry items, there is no way to filter by whether the items are in stock and I wasn't even aware that this was an issue when I was adding items. The Joy Credits they give you are pretty limited and you get charged delivery fees on some items. "WithJoy promo codes and post-wedding completion discounts cannot be applied to honeymoon funds, cash funds, digital or physical gift cards, or items from external websites." The website is also really clunky in general. \- You have to re-login to the website every time. There is no option to stay logged in. \- The search bar for the registry is the worst search I've ever experienced. It returns results for every word you enter \*separately\*. \- The native back button doesn't work in many cases. \- You can't see all the filters on the left panel unless you scroll to the very bottom of the main content. I was able to contact customer support and they shared my frustration about the clarity of out-of-stock items with the product team.

For an affordable venue, you may find a local veterans/fraternal org hall that still has wood paneling. Dark green [tablecloths](https://old.reddit.com/r/Weddingsunder10k/comments/1bu4rf4/is_it_really_worth_the_cost_to_pay_more_to_rent/kxqtwi6/?context=3) and green napkins. Palm leaf plates. https://www.reddit.com/r/Weddingsunder10k/comments/txl2g8/comment/i3mnxrh/ Chicken or turkey drumsticks have that medieval banquet look .Sangria is yummy, budget-friendly and also looks appropriate. Want a round doorway? Snag cardboard from a refrigerator/huge TV delivery to make your curved sides. Decorate accordingly. Love this DIY portable folding screen with stringlights and branches whenever an enchanted forest is called for. [Caution - loud video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w0f74ZW4UD4) When the city trims the trees, I'm going to try recreating this with limbs instead of dimensional lumber and jute twine instead of screws and hinges. Uplights: https://rentmywedding.com/rm/Uplighting-UP3242.html Here's a font to use on things you actually need - electronic save the dates, website (best reviews are for [Joy](https://withjoy.com/wedding-website/?utm_campaign=[SAGE]-Registry-Cash/Experiences-New-MarComm&utm_content=Sitelink-Wedding-Website&utm_term=honeymoon%20registry&utm_matchtype=b&campaignid=11873652165&adgroupid=123674317819&creative=586022149874&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=11873652165&gbraid=0AAAAADg81BEbFecJtdcds40NvVPak8Gq5&gclid=Cj0KCQjwlLDQBhDjARIsAPlIefGtAcKo_ryE0Y8FTjCmA3vPwWkh2ArovgUirF_p9c9vcjAahoApBoQaAmQwEALw_wcB)), invitations, escort cards, table names (also number them to make them easier for guests to find): https://www.dafont.com/hobbiton-brush-hand.font Edited to add: Holy Clothing might be an affordable option for your attire: https://holyclothing.com/products/elinor-maxi-3?variant=43458761621606

I built a bot for myself (am a very technical woman) and I only use the sites to collect RSVPs. I was not influenced to use vendors or anything from withjoy since the vendors I've hired are recommended by my venue itself so they ask know and work well with each other. But I'm having a large wedding so that's why we opted to have minimal essential tech involved with our planning since the spreadsheets and planning notebooks were not effective for us. I think it might of been because by the time I'm done working 10 to 12 hours in power BI or excel, the last thing I want to look at is another spreadsheet 🤣 we go to the local brewery on Sundays to catch up on planning items or do our diy work for centerpieces and whatnot

Idk. I thought that when I added the hotels through the website it would direct them to the hotels website. Maybe so did she. And I linked QR code for details for my invites so people go to the website to find that information. I am not a traveler. I do not book hotels or anything so I am very green when it comes to stuff like this. I just wanted other brides to also be aware. Also wasn’t aware that TheKnot was in a lawsuit until way after I set everything up 🫠 and by then it was too late. I have not had any issues from them at all. From what I see on my website, is that theknot is using something called Engine for bookings. But it’s still all through TheKnot. So if there’s another party under those then it is not seen. The other bride is using a different website. WithJoy I think is the one. I just wanted to tell other brides who were like me and didn’t know these things to keep what happened to my coworker to their guests.

So it was booked through the wedding website and she’s having to dispute it through them. I used Priceline/travelocity as those are common third party sites and the hotel she booked through mentioned Priceline and some other ones I have never heard of that they no longer accept bookings from, and it’s a Hilton type hotel. And the third party site the website did book through I’ve also never heard of. I looked on my own website and it doesn’t tell you where the booking is booking through, just that it’s on “the knot”. The other bride used a different website, I think WithJoy or something. Idk her, I just know I don’t want my guests booking hotels and then getting scammed out of it cause the website is using sus third party sites. So this is just a psa to let people know to check and, like you said, properly vet their websites before using

In my circle, if there’s not an online option, people just bring a card with cash/check in it to the wedding. We used withjoy for our website and they didn’t charge any fee for the “cash fund” but when you actually contributed to the fund, it was just a link to Venmo us anyway lol. So the only benefit to using the fund vs just providing the Venmo link was being able to customize what you called it (like “honeymoon fund” etc)

Hello brides! I'm finally almost done with my digital wedding invitation. My sister made it using Canva and I’ll be using WithJoy for RSVP (hyperlinked sa canva). The setting I'll use is yung i-activate yung “restrict to guest list only” yung pwede mag-RSVP where in may uploaded na guest list sa backend. When I send out yung invites through fb messenger, maglalagay rin ako ng note sa message na “please input your name exactly as: Manny Pacquiao” - something like this. My question: May nakatry na ba ng ganitong method (kahit not in withjoy) na may instructions ng exact name and all. Any cons sa ganitong set up ng rsvp or comments please? Thank you!!

Withjoy seems to hide the fact that some items are out of stock when making your registry. If an item is out of stock the only option is "Add to Registry" and if it's in stock there are two additional options "Buy Now" and "Add to Cart". That's the only way to tell. From the [joy store credit help page](https://withjoy.com/help/en/articles/11394587-joy-store-credit): >Due to inventory changes, sometimes an item may not be available at the time you want to buy it. If that's the case, the shop item won't show an 'add to cart' or 'buy now' button on your admin page. >You can still add the item to your registry for a guest to buy. We'll allow them to buy the item in case the item becomes available again during the processing time. Note: for guests visiting your registry all options for purchasing are still available for out of stock items. If an item is out of stock the value of that item is automatically converted to Joy store credit when processed. You cannot convert that credit to cash or use it to purchase gift cards or third party items, only (in stock) physical objects and experiences. The only way to get the funds out is to refund them to the original purchaser which is awkward as hell. So there's a chance that when making your registry you add an item, a guest purchases it, with joy gets the money, you get store credit and have to try to find something that matches to spend it on (unlikely you'll find something the exact same price so will either have left over credit or have to pay some more to get a similar item) all while the item was never actually in stock! It seems they legalese their way into the ability to do this by having this in the aforementioned help page: >When you purchase a gift on our site, you're buying the equivalent in Joy Credit, which is equal to the full price of the item at the time of purchase, including taxes and shipping. The gift recipient can use that value to have the selected item shipped at their convenience. Theoretically they could list any item on earth as able to add to your registry without necessarily having to stock it. One other thing to mention, if withjoy stops carrying an item that's on your registry and it's purchased you're still locked in to store credit for that item. For example, if you had the [nest thermostat ](https://withjoy.com/shop/item/6b1051e6-2408-5a0a-bbe3-161d1712fbb5)($250) and a guest purchased it, you get $250 in store credit, but that item is "no longer in \[their\] catalog" and will never be restocked and they don't carry any other smart thermostats so now you have to find something else in their store to spend $250 on. Or you can reach out to the guest who purchased it, ask them to go to withjoy and get refunded (which will not be straightforward), and purchase it for you again through another site. Overall withjoy has been pretty good for us, but dealing with gifts purchased that are out of stock has been a pain, and if you are using it as a registry I would recommend to pay attention to whether an item is in stock.

hi! planning my wedding and thinking of doing a custom website (not the usual knot/withjoy templates) has anyone here in the ph tried working with a designer/dev for this? i kinda want something more minimal/luxe — less “wedding site”, more like a fashion brand or hotel vibe if that makes sense would love to know: * who you worked with * rough cost * what was included (rsvp, guest list, etc) * if it was worth it also open to recs if you’ve seen a really nice one 🙏

Hi, I was wondering if anyone has experience with WithJoy registry items being purchased through WithJoy and then being out of stock after guests have already paid. Were the items ever restocked? How long did it take? Did you have to check every day to see if they came back? I am specifically dealing with three Mackenzie-Childs pieces that are currently in stock on both the Mackenzie-Childs website and Williams-Sonoma, but unavailable through WithJoy. WithJoy support told me they cannot provide any timeline for restocking. My only alternative right now is to refund the guests directly, which feels really uncomfortable. I do not want to reach out and say they are getting a refund and then ask them to reorder the same gift somewhere else. Has anyone dealt with this? What actually ended up happening?

Hi, I was wondering if anyone has experience with WithJoy registry items being purchased through WithJoy and then being out of stock after guests have already paid. Were the items ever restocked? How long did it take? Did you have to check every day to see if they came back? I am specifically dealing with three Mackenzie-Childs pieces that are currently in stock on both the Mackenzie-Childs website and Williams-Sonoma, but unavailable through WithJoy. WithJoy support told me they cannot provide any timeline for restocking. My only alternative right now is to refund the guests directly, which feels really uncomfortable. I do not want to reach out and say they are getting a refund and then ask them to reorder the same gift somewhere else. Has anyone dealt with this? What actually ended up happening?

Finding the WithJoy website really confusing! We've already printed our wedding invitations so we're stuck with it. Is it not possible to add External Registries in Canada to WithJoy? I tried to add our West Elm registry (.ca URL) but the WithJoy site has an error message and only accepts .com URLs. How did you get around this?! Ahh! At this point, I don't believe the WithJoy Registry ships to Canada, so if I can't link an External Registry either, I'm a bit stuck. Do Canadians just make a link from their WithJoy websites to an external site like MyRegistry to handle the registry entirely?

Although I’m bummed that the wedding is over, I’m PSYCHED that the *planning* is over 💃🏻✅😴 I won’t deny that 90% of my motivation for writing this is to leave a glowing review of our photographer while still adhering to the subreddit rules. Still, reading through the posts in this community helped me a ton, so I’d also love to share my numbers in hopes that others find it useful. We had a lopsided budget, where we skipped a few conventional things to splurge on others. It helped that our families didn’t have too many strong opinions, so my husband and I had a lot of creative freedom to choose the elements that best reflected our vision and values. The entire celebration involved a bachelor/ette party all day Friday, a Chinese tea ceremony Saturday afternoon, a dinner reception Saturday evening, and a post-wedding brunch Sunday afternoon. This recap will start with our essentials and work down from there. **TL;DR** * Ceremony venue, reception venue, catering: $19.7K * DJ, photography, coordinator, florals: $9K * Splurges: $24.2K 🤪 1️⃣ **VENUE, CATERING, AND CORE VENDORS** For us, “core” meant “if we don’t have this vendor, either we will be devastated OR something might go wrong during the event” **Ceremony venue: $1.4K**  We decided to skip the Western ceremony (i.e. walking down the aisle) early in the planning process, but adding the tea ceremony was somewhat last-minute. Our ceremony was family-only and held in my in-laws’ hotel suite in Hotel Caza (which we do NOT recommend lol). Although this cost could be categorized as lodging, we did book their specific room for the purpose of the ceremony. The ceremony was family-only, so we had no furniture rentals or coordinator for this part. The hotel was a 5-minute walk from Palette, which our families had no trouble with, so no need to arrange transportation. Although we cut out the aisle, we do find the vow exchange meaningful, so we held one at the reception. **Reception: Venue, food, and beverage: $18.3K** Food: $11.7K (including vendor meals) Drinks: $5.9K 😅 Coat room, linens, TV, projector rentals: $700 Post-tax, post-gratuity We hosted 80 guests at Palette Tea House, who were phenomenal to work with. They were incredibly flexible and chill and transparent about everything, and our guests loved the food. Instead of a venue fee, Palette has a F&B minimum. We booked their main dining room, which had a minimum of $10k from 5-10pm. Booking until 11pm with the coat room bumped the minimum to $11.5k for us. Their main dining room seats 120, but we sectioned off the back area for karaoke, leaving us with 88 seats, of which we filled 83.  Palette had a lot of bar options. We decided on an open bar, and they let us set a cap. We don’t drink much so we initially guessed the tab would land around $3K. Once we got into a party mood though, we removed the cap. In retrospect, removing the cap may have been unwise, but we’re glad our guests had a great time! We absolutely loved working with Palette. During the one or two walkthroughs we did, they brainstormed along with us, helped experiment with table layouts, and even let us add dishes not on their usual menu. For my husband and I, skipping the Western ceremony gave us the freedom to host our reception at Palette without worrying about weather or guest logistics. **Photographer: $5K** As mentioned earlier, this budget recap mainly exists so I can recommend our photographer, **Eric Le from Inspired By Studio**. We were soooo fortunate to have found him. We wanted a documentary-style photographer who could work with limited indoor lighting, and Eric was that and more. Eric’s rate is usually higher, but given the timing and personal circumstances, he was able to offer a generous discount and we can’t thank him enough. Not only was he communicative and experienced, but he put in tons of effort to scope out photography spots, coordinate our first look, and most importantly, get us laughing. We loved how easy it was to work together. And of course, the final gallery we received was full of whimsical, heartfelt memories, all beautifully captured. The lighting and composition were spot-on, and the moments he captured emphasized the love between us and our friends and family. **DJ: $2.6K** Our top wishlist item was finding someone who could run private room-style karaoke (i.e. singalong > spotlight). There aren’t a heck ton, but thankfully we found Jordan from Heart of Gold, an agency specializing in female+ DJs. Jordan had amazing communication, and she was so generous with our request to add a Cantonese song to the karaoke catalog (which involves downloading and working with lyrics in a language she doesn’t speak!) **Coordinator: $1K** We were originally going to have a simple reception dinner, so we weren’t sure if a coordinator was necessary, especially with no ceremony. But as we added more scope (more speeches, props, decor), we decided a coordinator would be immensely helpful. After a lot of searching, we went with Arlene Muñoz based on a friend’s recommendation. We really appreciated how Arlene took care of things on the day of so that my husband and I could feel like guests at our own wedding! **Subtotal: $28.3K** We’re overall happy with where we landed on this! For venue, catering, and vendors, our initial cost estimates ranged from $27K to $40K. While this initial estimate did originally assume we’d have a Western ceremony (thus inflating the estimate relative to what the event actually entailed), we still hit the bottom of our target range without sacrificing anything from our wishlist. 2️⃣ **GIFTS FROM US** Things people don’t expect in the slightest, but it made us happy to make it happen. **Lodging for family: $3.9K** We decided to treat my family (who flew across the country) to a mini-vacation leading up to the wedding weekend. Since our venue was pretty low-budget, we wanted to funnel some of those savings toward spending more time with them (and patching over some earlier drama lol). **Family brunch: $900** Before the tea ceremony, we brought all the relatives together, similar to a welcome or rehearsal dinner. We had about 20 people at Surisan, a tasty Korean-American fusion brunch place. **Wedding party lodging: $8.6K** This was one of the most important elements we wanted budget for. The vast majority of our wedding party live outside the Bay Area, and while we do travel to visit each other, my husband and I wanted to make the most of the opportunity to bring everyone together. As a thank you for traveling, taking PTO, and being awesome people, we booked us all a Victorian mansion from Thursday to Saturday night. On Friday we hosted a bachelor/ette party, a day of fun activities, and it was the most memorable time. At the very early stages of planning, my husband and I envisioned a retreat-style wedding, but there were few venues within our budget or on the date we wanted. Holding our event in SF, with Palette and the Airbnb within rideshare distance, made everything we hoped for possible. **Wedding party food: $1.8K** Three breakfasts, two lunches, and two dinners for 20 people. We did a mix of catering and Costco, and everyone was sooo thoughtful about pitching in to help cook and clean up. Later we learned they also secretly covered the cost of Costco groceries, those fiends. **Post-wedding brunch venue: $1K** Since receptions can be hectic, we wanted a chiller way to spend time with guests, so we booked The Loft by Common Space SF for 6 hours. The space was light-filled and large enough for over 50 guests, so it worked out well! **Post-wedding brunch food: $700** We got Ike’s, which removed the need for too much dishware, and it allowed people to grab a sandwich and run off to the airport if needed. **Subtotal: $16.9K** **TOTAL SO FAR: $45.2K** 3️⃣ **GIFTS TO OURSELVES** Things nobody cares about except us. **Tea ceremony outfit: $60** Thanks Taobao 🫡 **Rings: $800** Thanks Costco 🫡 **Suit, tie, shoes: $1.5K** Thanks Suit Supply 🫡 **Reception dress: $1.4K** I splurged on a custom qipao/cheongsam from Alethea Sposa, based in Jakarta. I was a huge fan of her designs and felt the most optimistic that she could pull off what I was looking for. I absolutely love the dress and had such a blast wearing it day of, but due to a miscommunication on my part, the dress ended up being way oversized when I initially received it. So with 3 weeks to spare, I scrambled to find… **Emergency alterations, whose costs are a bit embarrassing but I can’t say I regret it either: $2.1K** If 90% of my motivations are to praise our photographer, then I’ll add another 90% (🧮🤔) for Suzanne from Atelier des Modiste!!! The tailors I initially contacted either said the dress was unfixable or that it would take months. Suzanne truly worked miracles performing invasive surgery on the dress, with multiple fittings along the way to get the details just right. Her initial quote was spot-on and there were no surprises along the way. A true professional artist 😭 I did consider giving up on the dress and wearing my tea ceremony outfit during the reception instead. But a couple months prior, I had a windfall from work, so I decided to yolo part of those savings into rescuing my dress. **Florals: $400** Since we only had a tea ceremony, plus the venue being plenty decorated, we opted out of bouquets and other large florals. I like flowers though lol so I squeezed in a few bud vases to spruce up the tables. We worked with Cecilia from Village No 7, who has an amazing portfolio and was super transparent, flexible, and communicative about everything! Highly recommend. **Save-the-dates, invitation, website: $45** We DIYed everything online. The only cost was a three-month subscription to RSVPify, which we chose over WithJoy mainly to avoid the ads the latter comes with lol **Party favors, decor, etc: idk $200?** **Bachelor/ette activities: idk $300?** **Subtotal: $6.8K** **FINAL TOTAL: $52K** Best weekend ever! Our biggest underestimates were drinks and alterations. Our biggest overestimates were photographer, coordinator, and florals. If we skipped the stuff in “Gifts from us,” then the total would’ve been $35K, but those things meant the most to us, so we were happy to splurge. Thanks for reading, and please check out our photographer!

What the title says. Do not use WithJoy for your wedding website unless you want to cause your guests headache, pain, stress, and out $400. Back in February I booked a hotel reservation through WithJoy for my cousin’s wedding in April. My card was charged $390 and I was sent a confirmation email for the booking. Flash forward to me arriving at the hotel to check in, and apparently the “system” canceled the reservation back in March. I got zero notice, and zero refund from WithJoy, as well as zero explanation. The hotel is now completely booked out on Saturday (the night of the wedding) so I have absolutely no where to stay and I’m still out $390. WithJoy has no number or real person to talk to anywhere, only an unhelpful AI chat box and an email with a slow response. So far, still have zero answers, zero refund and no place to stay on Saturday. Absolutely unacceptable. Do not give this website your business and save your guest time energy and money.

WithJoy has been such a nightmare of a registry that I ended up switching to another service, and this is one of the issues that led me to dropping them. To answer your question, no, they do not show the sale price and they will charge your guests the full price. The reason this happens is that with Crate & Barrel, they actually copy all of your items over from that registry onto your WithJoy registry, so your guests are actually purchasing the items directly from WithJoy. I've read that this causes issues when items are sold out and you are only given "Joy Credit" to buy something from their shop, but I can't confirm that. I have found, however, that a lot of their items are listed for higher than they retail for from other sites. The last straw for WithJoy for me was the $6 ecard they push your guests to buy once they've selected an item to purchase. You can't turn that off. I am registered at a few different stores but really wanted to be able to list things from stores that don't have registries. I ended up making a MyRegistry and linking it to the top of my WithJoy registry page with a "we've moved our registry" message. Each universal registry deals with store registries differently and I've stopped trying to make them play well together. I like MyRegistry because it only shows a listing of your items from your store registries and links directly to the store when you click on an item. I don't think universal registries work well as a middle man and I'm actually pretty irritated that WithJoy requires Crate & Barrel registries to be fully "synced" rather than just linked to the store site. Between the Knot, WithJoy, and MyRegistry, WithJoy had by far the most issues of the universal registries I tried and it wasn't even close.

Hello! Our wedding website is on WithJoy, which I had read positive reviews about. However, I am now getting worried as I create our registry. One of our higher cost items is currently 30 percent off, the Le Creuset ® Signature 6.5-Qt. Sea Salt Enameled Cast Iron Deep Round Dutch Oven, down from $460 to $290. But WithJoy lists the full price on our site. Does the site list live discounts? I would hate for people to think we are over-asking or for them to over-pay. I’m now wondering if I should registry only directly with Crate and Barrel and not sync our registry onto WithJoy [https://www.crateandbarrel.com/le-creuset-signature-6.5-qt.-sea-salt-enameled-cast-iron-deep-round-dutch-oven/s610519](https://www.crateandbarrel.com/le-creuset-signature-6.5-qt.-sea-salt-enameled-cast-iron-deep-round-dutch-oven/s610519)

I'm based in the UK and am about to be married this summer. I need to create an online wedding invitation which will need to contain the 3 key items below. I've just signed up to the Knot, withjoy and RSVPify. So far, I'm really liking RSVPify because of its ease of use. I signed up to their "free plan" as I just need to build 1 wedding event and won't have guests more than 100. But as I was building the invitation, it states that some fields such as adding meal preferences option is a premium feature and that I'll need a Premium Plan for it. I don't want to sign up to any Subscription. Anyone knows a reliable, simple, easy to use website that will allow me to include the 3 key items below without additional cost? 1. Order of the day 2. Ability to add RSVP 3. Being able to add meal preferences Thanks!

Hi! I am planning to use WithJoy for my wedding but I am not too sure how I can use the RSVP. As I am planning to send the invite to individuals and they may bring along their family member, how do i go about programming the RSVP such that each family only needs to have 1 person filling in the rsvp form and I will know who exactly in the family will be joining? Also, for my wedding, guests will have a few choices to choose from for their mains, how do I allow them to fill in the main for those responding for the entire family? If the above is not possible using the rsvp function of WithJoy, is there any workaround? The simplest one i can think of is to create an external form (qualtrics/microsoft form) then just add the link into the withjoy page. Appreciate your help in this!!

I reached out to the website help but I didn’t get a satisfactory answer. So when I’m creating my RSVP questions, I want to ask the people who select ‘evening reception’ a follow-up question ‘Do you require evening food?’ However, WithJoy have said I can’t ask a follow-up question after the first follow-up question. WithJoy have said I can use guest tags, but I don’t understand how the RVSP system knows that certain questions are tagged, if that makes sense? How do I ask guests that have selected ‘evening reception’ about whether they want food without any other guest being asked that?